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The Monday After  •  Dec 29, 2025

When Christmas Has a Shadow

Darren Carlson

How are you doing as we come to the close of 2025?

Being a pastor, I have a sense of how many of you are doing. Some of you are doing well—family in town, joyful reunions, a year that has felt steady, even fruitful. Some of you are crossing into a new year with real expectations.

But some of you are crossing the finish line, and it doesn't feel like anything is going to be different.

It's been hard. It's been cancer, or Parkinson's, or Alzheimer's. It's been losing a job. It's been a relationship that won't heal. It's been loneliness—maybe you moved away, or moved here, and now you're back visiting and you're not sure where "home" is anymore. Family can be hard: adult children worried about aging parents; parents trying to get their kids to speak one kind word; kids wondering when their parents will finally relax.

And for you, Christmas has a shadow over it.

Have you ever watched A Charlie Brown Christmas? Charlie Brown is struggling and confused. He ends up at Lucy's little psychiatry booth, pays his nickel, and submits to a series of diagnostic questions centered on his fears. Eventually Lucy diagnoses him with "pantophobia"—the fear of everything. But Charlie knows that's not what's really bothering him. He finally says it out loud: it's Christmas that is the problem.

He confesses to Linus, "I just don't understand it. Instead of feeling happy, I feel sort of let down."

Christmas can be a season of packed schedules, high emotions, and competing expectations. And all this "extra special" stuff can somehow leave you feeling emptier than before. Advent doesn't pretend the world is already right. Advent names that strange mixture most of us carry: longing and fatigue, hope and fear, celebration and disappointment. It tells the truth about darkness—but it refuses to let darkness have the last word.

So let's join the shepherds in Luke 2 for a moment.

Have you ever been to the opera? I have—and every time I go, I feel like I've walked into a world that isn't mine. It's beautiful, but it's also "high class." Opera—more than most arts—often depends on a smaller circle of donors to survive, and it tends to gather a certain social set. That's not an insult; it's just an observation. And when someone barges in from outside that world, everyone feels it. It's awkward—like you broke an unspoken rule.

Now look at Luke 2:8. Shepherds are out in the fields. And an angel appears to them. And then—this is staggering—heaven's choir breaks out over rural men and their animals.

So here's the question: Why are shepherds the target of the announcement? Why do they get front-row seats to the greatest concert ever staged?

At least two reasons:

1) Their Socio-Economic Status

God does not judge on social status. He cares for all—and so often, the weight of his attention falls on outsiders, not insiders.

That matters because we live with a natural pull toward status. Even in the New Testament, the early Christians were tempted to cluster around certain people, to divide by class, to give honor where the world gives honor. We're not above that. In an age of celebrity culture—even in the church—we can subtly start to believe the gospel "works" best when it reaches the powerful first.

There are churches and ministries whose stated mission is to reach influencers and leaders because "that's how change happens." And sometimes those organizations raise lots of dollars with that vision. Do leaders need the gospel? Absolutely. And praise God when they're reached.

But notice what God chose to do.

God announced the birth of Jesus to the shepherds.

He did not go to Caesar and demand that he bend the knee. He did not go first to the high priest in Jerusalem to unveil the long-awaited Messiah. He sent angels—on purpose—to rural, likely poor, likely overlooked, perhaps even illiterate men.

The greatest group of singers ever assembled sang in a field for lower-class men.

If you're tired, if you're small in your own eyes, if you feel like you don't belong—Luke 2 is not embarrassed to say: you are exactly the kind of person God loves to meet.

2) Because Jesus is the Ultimate Shepherd-Ruler

And there's more. Shepherds aren't only a social category; they're a biblical symbol. God promised a Shepherd-King—one who would gather the scattered, protect the weak, and rule with righteousness. In other words, the angel doesn't just appear to shepherds; the angel announces the arrival of the Shepherd.

The shepherds are invited first because the birth of Jesus is good news for outsiders—and because Jesus comes as the true Shepherd who will not abandon his flock.

And if Christmas has a shadow over it for you, you're not disqualified. You're not forgotten. You may be closer to the point of the story than you realize.

 

When someone I know was 16, he went on a short-term missions trip to Alaska. They spent their days walking around in groups, praying for people—especially those who were sick or homeless. One day, a group from their team met a man who was homeless and blind. The man was also a Christian. The group asked if they could pray for him and specifically prayed that the Lord would heal his blindness.

They prayed sincerely, but when the prayer ended, nothing happened. The man was still blind. Instead of being discouraged himself, the man began encouraging the group. He kept telling them that it was okay and that God was still good. He didn't seem upset at all, and he tried to reassure the teenagers who had been praying for him.

After that, the group moved on and continued praying for other people, but they felt discouraged. They had really hoped to see God answer that prayer for a brother in Christ.

Later that day, as all the teams were returning to the bus to leave, a man came running toward it. He was yelling and crying at the same time. When he reached the bus, they realized it was the same man they had prayed for earlier. He ran onto the bus and shouted that he could see.

He said he wasn't part of what happened next because there were so many students. The leaders and some of the students who had prayed for the man talked with him, prayed with him again, and encouraged him. They helped him think through what he needed to do next. Then they drove him to a place he needed to go and dropped him off.

He said that as they drove away, the bus was filled with tears, worship, and praise, because they had witnessed the Lord heal a man.

Attempt great things. Expect great things. Don't let anyone look down on your youth.

 

Tithe_Your_Career

My friend Paul Vanderwerf has written a unique book for college students. Tithe Your Career is a short book inviting students to invest the first two years of their career in missional and practical work around the world. This is a great book to give to a student who has a desire to serve in missions but does not know what to do next.

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